How to be confident

2025-12-25 · Short · Ali · recording, 1:09 · watch on YouTube

Topic: Mindset, motivation and happiness · mode: Answering questions · tags: Lesson from a book

Answering a DM about his presence, Ali says he was not charismatic at school and learned charisma at university from books and online courses, because everything is a skill that can be learned.

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The parts of the video and what is said in each (★ — how much it matters to the video).

00:00:00 — How Ali learned to be charismatic: books, online courses and practice

• ★★ Ali says that when he was younger he read books and found online resources on how to be handsome and how to be charismatic, to level up his style and look. — 00:00:00
• ★★ Ali recommends Models by Mark Manson, a book on attracting women that he calls a personal development book: become the sort of person the person you want would be attracted to. — 00:00:29
• ★★ For charisma, Ali recommends the books Charisma on Command and The Charisma Myth. — 00:00:29
• ★★★ Ali says he was not very charismatic at school; at university he decided to level up his charisma, took online courses and read books, and improved until people told him he had good presence. — 00:00:29
• ★★★ Ali thinks everything is a skill and can be learned, including being cool, handsome and charismatic. — 00:00:58

Threads in this video

• refine · How do you become more confident? — Ali says he was not charismatic at school and levelled up his charisma at university by taking online courses and reading books on it, since everything is a skill that can be learned. (00:00:29)

Mentioned

Charisma on Command · Mark Manson · Models · The Charisma Myth

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