3 ways to ask for help 🚨

2024-01-07 · Short · Ali · recording, 0:50 · watch on YouTube

Topic: Work and career · mode: List of tips or lessons · tags: Feel-Good Productivity thesis

In an extract from his book Feel-Good Productivity, Ali gives three ways to ask for help so that it warms people to us: adopt the maxim that people are more eager to help than you think, ask in person, and use the right language, saying why you came to that person rather than apologising or offering a trade.

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00:00:00 — Three ways to ask for help that warm people to us

• ★★ Ali's first way to ask for help without alienating people is to get over the reluctance to ask by adopting a maxim: people are more eager to help than you think. — 00:00:00
• ★★ Ali's second way is to frame a request for help the right way, above all by asking in person, because asking virtually makes everything more difficult. — 00:00:00
• ★★★ When asking for help, Ali says, avoid negative phrases such as "I feel really bad for asking you this" and avoid making it a trade; instead say why you came to that specific person, for example that their work had an impact on you. — 00:00:00
• ★★★ Ali says that a request for help framed correctly makes the person you ask feel as good as the help makes you feel. — 00:00:29

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• refine · How do you reach and connect with people who can help you? — When asking for help, Ali says, avoid negative phrases such as "I feel really bad for asking you this" and avoid making it a trade; instead say why you came to that specific person, for example that their work had an impact on you. (00:00:00)

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Only in the description or credits: Feel-Good Productivity (book)

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