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4 responses to your friend's good news 💬

2023-12-27 · Short · Ali · recording, 0:50 · watch on YouTube

Topic: Relationships and personal life · mode: Explanation and tutorial · tags: Feel-Good Productivity thesis

In an extract from his book Feel-Good Productivity, Ali sets out four ways to respond to a friend's good news, using a flatmate's job offer as the example, and advises taking an active constructive approach to all good news.

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00:00:00 — Four responses to a flatmate's good news, and the active constructive one

  • ★★ Ali says there are many ways to respond to good news, not all of them positive, and illustrates four of them with a flatmate who has been offered a job they worked hard for. — 00:00:00
  • ★★ An active constructive response to good news, Ali says, sounds like "wow, that's great, you've been working so hard for this, I knew you'd get it". — 00:00:00
  • ★★ A passive constructive response to good news, Ali says, is understated, such as a gentle nod and a smile followed by "that's good news". — 00:00:00
  • ★★ An active destructive response undermines the friend's success, Ali says, such as asking whether the new job means they will be too busy to hang out in the evenings and at weekends. — 00:00:29
  • ★★ A passive destructive response ignores the friend's good news, Ali says, for example by replying "you won't believe what happened to me today". — 00:00:29
  • ★★★ Ali says being able to celebrate people's wins matters, and the best way to do so is to take an active constructive approach to all good news. — 00:00:29

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Central: active constructive response

Only in the description or credits: Feel-Good Productivity (book)

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