One of the most embarrassing moments of my life 😳

2023-12-07 · Short · Ali · recording, 0:58 · watch on YouTube

Topic: Mindset, motivation and happiness · mode: Personal story

In an extract from his book Feel-Good Productivity, Ali tells of a joke that fell flat at his friend Jake's party and how his friend Katherine had not even noticed it, showing that he had overestimated how much others notice and judge us.

What is said

The parts of the video and what is said in each (★ — how much it matters to the video).

00:00:00 — The Uber Eats joke at Jake's party and what Ali learned from it

• ★★ At a Saturday party at the house of his friend Jake, who was known to live off Uber Eats but had cooked a buffet, Ali joked "Thanks for ordering all this delicious food on Uber Eats", and nobody laughed. — 00:00:00
• ★★ Fearing he had offended his host, Ali later had a mild freakout to his friend Katherine, who had not even realised he had told a joke. — 00:00:29 · Katherine
• ★★ From the party Ali concludes that he had overestimated how much others noticed and judged his actions: everyone was too busy with their own concerns to focus on his every move. — 00:00:29

Mentioned

Central: spotlight effect

Also: Jake (friend, mentioned from 2023) · Katherine · Uber

Only in the description or credits: Feel-Good Productivity (book)

Also centred on spotlight effect: How To Beat Imposter Syndrome · The Spotlight Effect 🔦

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