Ali makes himself ask a question at the end of every class or lecture to build his confidence
story · status: told 3× · last event: retold (2024-03-15) · owner: Ali
Told alongside: Ali learns close-up magic at the end of school and performs it at a local hospice
| date | event | what | video |
|---|---|---|---|
| 2020-10-04 | told | At 16 Ali set himself the challenge of asking a question at every talk or lecture; it was very scary at first but natural after a few months, and by university he had no qualms. | My BIGGEST Rejections in Life 00:11:53 |
| 2021-04-30 | retold | To build confidence at school, Ali made a point of asking a question at the end of every class, lecture or presentation; it became so normal that he now has no qualms asking one even among 400 medical students. | How I Became REALLY Confident 00:10:07 |
| 2024-03-15 | retold | Wanting to improve his charisma, Ali forced himself to put his hand up and ask a question in every class and lecture at medical school; it was scary at first but showed him that no one actually cares. | The Perfectionism Trap (And How to Escape It) 00:15:19 |
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- 2020-10-04 · My BIGGEST Rejections in Life — Ali: In 2019 at the Power of Video conference in Belfast, Ali kept asking questions after talks by YouTubers such as Peter McKinnon, Chris Hau, Cody Wanner and Elle Mills, until people knew him as the questions guy. — 00:12:22
- 2020-10-04 · My BIGGEST Rejections in Life — Ali: When Ali asked Peter McKinnon how he works with his editor, a professional videographer in his forties beside him said he had wanted to ask but was too scared to put his hand up. — 00:12:51
- 2020-10-04 · My BIGGEST Rejections in Life — Ali thinks it is still very common, even among adults, to fear putting yourself out there, such as by asking a question at a conference. — 00:12:51
- 2020-10-04 · My BIGGEST Rejections in Life — Ali's fourth lesson: "be yourself" is nonsense, since who we are is an accident of genetics and upbringing; don't just be yourself, choose yourself, because you can change your personality. — 00:13:20
- 2021-04-30 · How I Became REALLY Confident — Ali: Confidence was part of why Ali took up close-up magic; he did shows at hospices, restaurants and later at university balls and parties, which stretched his comfort zone and raised his confidence. — 00:10:36
- 2021-04-30 · How I Became REALLY Confident — Ali: Starting university, Ali resolved not to be the shy boy he was at school, and introduced himself to anyone he sat next to in lectures, meeting loads of people. — 00:11:05
- 2021-04-30 · How I Became REALLY Confident — Ali came to think that the story of being shy and unconfident was one he was telling himself, and that he might be a confident guy after all. — 00:11:35
- 2021-04-30 · How I Became REALLY Confident — recommendation: Ali's last tip is that confidence is a skill that can and should be learned; he recommends the YouTube channel Charisma on Command and its book, one of the first he read on confidence. — 00:11:35
- 2024-03-15 · The Perfectionism Trap (And How to Escape It) — Ali: Although his book is called Feel-Good Productivity, Ali says not every moment has to feel good: stepping outside your comfort zone and embracing the discomfort drives feeling good in the long term. — 00:16:00