How do you deal with rejection and failure?

Risk-taking, rejections, failure as learning.

Axis: take more shots; rejection beats regret … avoid risk

Answers by date: 8 records in 8 sources, newest first; the answers above are the current ones. The advice was refined (2018), never reversed, in these records.

date	who	answer	source
2020-06-12 (said on 2020-05-27, implied)	Ali	Ali says that when he makes a mistake he takes the blame, notes what he should have done differently and what to do next time, and feels no self-doubt over it.	Crushes, Challenges and Irritating Habits - Q&A With My Roommate Molly 00:14:35
2018-05-29	Ali	With bad grades, Ali tells himself he did his best, or reflects on why he did not, and that grades are not a reflection of him as a person and do not really matter, because no one cares what grades you get.	Live Stream - Hangout 00:07:51
2018-05-07	Ali	To a student down about a bad OSCE history station, as his was too, Ali says feeling down only makes you feel bad: accept what you cannot change, like the serenity prayer, and move on.	Live Q&A + Hangout - Bank Holiday vibes - Ali Abdaal, Cambridge medical student 00:27:14
2018-05-01	Ali	If you don't get into medicine, Ali says: apply again if you want medicine; if you don't really care, apply for something else.	First Live Hangout + Rapid-fire Q&A 00:28:50
2018-04-12	Ali	Ali says that even if you miss the university you wanted, such as Oxford, Cambridge or Imperial, you will be as happy as if you had gone there, a comforting thought that helped him cope with worrying about the future.	Motivation, Stress & Time Management - Exam Revision Q&A with Cambridge students 00:12:09
2018-03-21	Ali	Ali says a romantic, academic or professional rejection is outside our control, so there is no point dwelling on it: treat it as a learning experience, take away a lesson and move on.	Q & A - 5,000 Subscribers! 00:10:59
2018-03-07	Ali	Ali thinks that the more people internalise that mistakes are good because they learn from them, the more success they can have in life.	Monthly Favourites #2 - Ali Abdaal 00:10:03
2018-02-17	Ali	Ali says that after a rejection the way to improve is to think your performance in that domain was not good enough, not that you are not good enough: after a failed interview, he works on his interview performance.	Medicine Application - No offers? 00:06:57

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